When starting a long distance relationship, it’s normal and natural to have all sorts of fears, worries, and questions. A major concern many people have is how to keep it interesting and fun. Although there are a ton of great ways and ideas to keep it out of the ordinary, I’d like to cover three of them here.
First, remember that relationships need stimulation to stay exciting! Obviously, every relationship varies, but most people get tired or burned out of the exact same routine over and over. You need to stir it up from time to time to keep everyone on their toes! It never hurts to do something unexpected and awesome for your partner.
Gifts are always welcome!
For one, sending a simple gift, either in the mail, or from a place like Amazon or eBay, is always fun. Most people like to be surprised by an unexpected gift. Don’t underestimate the power of thoughtful letters (snail mail style) as well.
Second, get creative.
Play an instrument? Create a song! It doesn’t have to be a complicated and professional Grammy-worthy guitar ballad, just use what you have. Write a ditty and tell your partner it was inspired by them.
Do you draw well? Draw them something, maybe a portrait of you together. Paint a watercolor or even a Jackson Pollock style drip painting….heck, anyone can do that! It doesn’t have to be a Monet, it just has to be something you created to show your partner you care and you’re thinking of them.
Third, ask more questions. There’s always more to know about a person!
Now, most connections start with all sorts of questions to get to know each other, but it can be fun and insightful to go beyond the whole “where are you from, what do you do, etc” type questions.
Do a quick internet search for “interesting questions to ask people” and get some ideas. Get crazy! It’s amazing how telling some of these answers can be! You might even discover something really cool you can use as a basis for a gift later on.
For example, ask them who the most attractive Disney princess or leading man is. Ask what their favorite animal cracker is and why. Ask if they had to go throughout life with skates for feet or lasers for eyes, which would they choose and why?
These types of questions, ridiculous as they seem, can really make a relationship fun and exciting. The point is that it’s different! Personally, I have done all sorts of these questions with my spouse, and we love the funny answers we get from each other. It’s a nice way to unwind and joke around, but still be communicating and learning about each other at the same time.
Keep these suggestions in mind to maintain an exciting relationship well into the future.