In the past few decades, engagement and marriage customs have undergone profound changes. Times are changing, and many couples choose to forgo traditions and take a more pragmatic approach.
Something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue? Impractical! A modern bride may even decide to skip a long, white dress altogether, and go for something shorter and more colorful. The garter toss? No, thank you. Tossing the bouquet is completely optional, too!
However, the debate over some issues still rages. For example: should marrying couples go Dutch on engagement rings?
Jewelry used to be the only form of wealth a woman could accumulate. But, these days, women are earning just like men are, and men are not the sole (or the biggest) breadwinners in the family. If a couple is already sharing their finances, shouldn’t the cost of the ring be shared, too?
Another interesting question raised is: should a jilted bride give back the engagement ring?
Opinions on this issue differ wildly. A surprising number of well-educated, gainfully employed women still expects a diamond ring from her partner. It’s not only because of the monetary value, they maintain, a diamond ring is a symbol of committed relationship.
Others think that spending a two or three months salary on a piece of jewelry, right in time when the couple is beginning its life as a family, is a poor financial decision. That burden of debt is definitely not romantic!
Even for more traditional couples, a diamond engagement ring is not exclusively a white diamond any more, either. They may choose colored diamonds, sapphires, or rubies.
Today, it is not uncommon for men to wear their wedding rings at all times. Only fifty years ago, that would be seen as unusual. The ring’s band doesn’t have to be gold any more.
Some couples are shunning traditional engagement and wedding rings altogether, opting for tattooed bands instead! It’s a surprising and growing trend, fueled by a host of celebrities who inked their commitments to each other. Diamonds are forever, but so are tattoos!
A wedding ring tattoo can look whatever you want it to look, and carry a message that’s important to you and your partner. For example, hearts and similar symbols, initials or the name of your spouse, or wedding dates are a popular choice.
Engagements and weddings are still the social events perhaps most steeped in tradition, but those traditions are slowly changing.